The effects of television watching on a three year old are as follows:
- Child may begin to act like a certain bald headed Canadian four year old with a whiny disposition
- Child may become lethargic and lazy with a shockingly short attention span
- Child may mistake the Pillow Pets commercial for his favorite show
- Child may act like a “bad guy”
- Child may want to know who Ken Buck is and why he’s such a bad guy
- Child may say things like, “let’s just turn it on and check the weather.”
- Or like a junkie, “just one more, please, please.”
- Child may no longer make eye contact with parent while television is on even if it’s a commercial for Bare Minerals make up.
When TV viewing is no longer available the child may experience all seven stages of grief:
1. Shock and Denial: “It’s ok Mom, I don’t need to watch tv, it gives me a headache anyways.”
2. Pain and Guilt: As the shock wears off, it is replaced with suffering of unbelievable pain.
3. Anger and Bargaining: Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out, permanent damage to relationships may occur. “Just one more Blues….”
4. Depression, Reflection, Loneliness: during this time you may realize the magnitude of your loss.
5. The Upward Turn: As you adjust to life without tv your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen and your “depression” begins to lift.
6. Reconstruction and Working Through: As you become more functional, your mind starts working again and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems.
7. Acceptance and Hope: In this last stage of grief you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. You may never be the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
We put the Kiabash on Milo watching TV. It began as a show here and there until he was watching two hours in the morning and an hour in the afternoon. He was watching a show in the evening just to take the edge off. I always thought of myself as an involved active parent and I fell so easily to the lure of the box once I had two. We haven’t watched TV in four days and Milo is beginning to understand that it probably isn’t coming back save for a rare popcorn party. Milo is still in stage three and might be there for a while and that’s ok.
This might just be the beginnings of some fundamental changes here in the old Fessler household…more to come on my family, life, affluenza, return to simple living manifesto. it’s still percolating.